The structure of the Swedish family, or rather, how exactly couples live in modern Sweden, is quite curious. In the past, family traditions in the country were patriarchal. The woman obeyed first to her parents, then to her husband. Marriages were concluded by agreement of parents, sometimes as early as the early childhood of the bride and groom.
Interestingly, premarital sex in Sweden was (and is now) a common occurrence - the groom could freely spend the night with the bride. The courtship period could last up to two years, and hasty marriages were condemned by the public.
Often, pregnancy or even childbirth of the bride became an incentive for the wedding, which served as a clear confirmation of "fertility" and were positive qualities.
The custom of "kidnapping the bride" was widespread - sometimes the young man did not look after the chosen one, but preferred to wait until the beloved began to prepare for the wedding with a rival. In the midst of the wedding celebration, a young Swede kidnapped her.
A bride stolen from one wedding was immediately brought to another, where a celebration and a feast was arranged. A young family in Sweden settled in their own house and lived on their own farm. This custom has survived to this day.
The Swedes have a fairly free attitude to marriage ties. Modern Swedes practically never enter into an official marriage, and live in a civil society called "sambu" - "living together." At the same time, both obligations and rights are absolutely the same as in official unions.
The standard "Sweden" is a pair of parents and a pair of children. Some Swedes explain their unwillingness to marry by the high cost and duration of divorce, especially if the family has joint children.
In the absence of officialdom, divorce is the simplest measure - it is enough to disperse to different apartments. Former husbands and wives usually maintain good, even friendly relations.
In Sweden, women have many rights and are well protected socially. Many Swedes have several marriages, and the children choose themselves where to live after a divorce - with their father or mother, often preferring to spend two weeks alternately with each of the parents.
Swedish dads are very responsible for children - the issue of enforced recovery of alimony is never raised, children under 18 regularly receive help from their father, or, if his whereabouts are unknown, from the state. Single mothers also have substantial housing benefits and a child allowance.
City Swedes rarely buy housing. They mostly live in government-owned apartments, paying rent for them. In the material sense, it is important for Swedes to meet certain standards, to be "no worse than others."
Usually both spouses work in a family, but it is customary to have different bank accounts, separate for the husband and for the wife. Together, the spouses pay for utilities - telephone, water, electricity, and share the cost of food. And for other purchases, for example, clothes, everyone spends money from their own account.
The financial independence of Swedes is often surprising for a Russian person: for example, it is in the order of things when, when visiting a restaurant, the spouses split the bill in half and pay separately.
In running a joint household, Sweden adheres to the principle of equality - spouses share household chores equally. The husband does not consider it shameful to cook or clean, the wife can carry out minor repair and construction work - all by mutual agreement.
A great relief of everyday problems is technology, which is abundant in every family. A washing machine, dishwasher, powerful vacuum cleaners, kitchen appliances and other things are required. By the way, many Swedish women practically do not iron their clothes, resorting to using an iron only in extreme cases.
Children in Swedish families are raised as free individuals from an early age. Corporal punishment is strictly prohibited and is considered a crime, so every young Swede can call the police and tell the mom or dad who spanked him. At the same time, parents face severe punishment.
The Swedish kid has his own room, which is completely his personal territory. Even if everything is lying there in a picturesque disorder, the parents prefer not to interfere, believing that the child has the right to live as he wants and will put things in order at the right time.
When children get older and invite groups of friends to their place, parents do not look into their room without an invitation. It is customary to take the child to parties and pick him up from there at about 12 o'clock in the morning.
Parents perform these duties calmly, since it is believed that children need privacy no less than adults. Mom or dad take their children to additional activities, since many Swedish children are actively involved in sports.
A child can get his own car license at the age of 18, from about this age children leave the family and lead an independent life in which their parents do not interfere. Young people rent their own homes, study or work.
Material aid to adult children is not accepted by the Swedes; in extreme cases, children can apply for state aid, and receive it in the form of material payments from social services or a loan from the state for 10-20 years.
So the real Sweden in fact turns out to be a strong cell of modern society, arranged quite reasonably. The main thing is an endlessly calm and respectful attitude from each other, which many can learn from the Swedes.