Wherever the fate of the Vietnamese threw, they still, soul and heart, remain with their relatives and friends and with their land on which they were born. Their society is built on the principle "house - village - country". This principle clearly shows the solidarity of people during various upheavals and instability in society, all Vietnamese try how they can support their loved ones and their home in difficult times.
Vietnamese families are created on the basis of centuries-old national traditions and basic social principles. This attitude is manifested in the fact that wherever, a person is thrown by fate, no matter what position in society he occupies, whether he is a rich and famous person or an ordinary employee, and even if fate brings him to another country.
He always returns with pain and love in his heart to his native village or village, to his home and his land. All this makes the family in Vietnam even stronger, where all national and religious customs are observed. Family relationships in Vietnam represent a mutual affection between all family members: parents and children, siblings, grandparents.
Children in such families grow up in complete harmony and idyll of relations between parents, they live in love and tranquility, and thus such an attitude in the family develops in the children themselves respect for their elders, for their relatives, they feel family warmth, learn to be independent and develop their cultural values. Of course, growing up, they cannot completely leave their home, a piece of their soul still remains where they took their first steps.
Great intimacy in the relationship of spouses in Vietnam is given by their colorfully beautiful fabulous ceremonies. One of the oldest wedding traditions is when the groom brings to his bride a symbol of love as a gift, consisting of the fruit of a palm tree, the leaves of the Trau tree and limestone, along with traditional fruits and tea.
According to ancient belief, the spouse could not wait for her beloved husband to leave the war. She came to the place where her husband died, fell to the ground and cried until she died of grief. After her death, she turned into a Trau tree, which wrapped around a palm tree growing nearby. Since then, it is customary to bring a symbol of love to the wedding ceremony, which, according to legend, serves as proof of true and strong love.
Earlier in the past, relationships in a Vietnamese family developed in an oriental style, when a more rigid relationship was established in the family between parents and children, women and men, when a man was the most important person in the family. However, such relations hampered the development of man and Vietnamese families have now become modern, have excluded from their traditions that which pulled this development back to primitive roots.
Women, in contrast to men, had less freedom, fewer rights and constituted the bulk of the illiterate population. Over time, there were changes for the better, and oriental traditions began to leave the life of a Vietnamese family.
However, a woman still defines a man as the head of the family, who decides the most important issues in the family, and the woman's business is to maintain the warmth of the hearth and family relations, housekeeping and raising children.
Although the whole structure of family relations preaches equality of the sexes, both spouses in the family should be equal, and should equally share household responsibilities among themselves. In principle, this is what happens in modern Vietnamese families, spouses help each other in everything related to family and household affairs.
All household management is divided into equal parts, children are raised by both parents, trying to give them as much attention as possible. And they pay considerable attention to the further fate of their children, trying to give them sufficient education so that the child could arrange his life without problems and not feel need.
Childbirth in Vietnam is taken very seriously. The birth of a boy is important and the main thing is that the son should be born first. These traditions led to the fact that in the early stages of pregnancy they learned to determine the sex of the child, and if the girl could be born first, women would have abortions.
If you pay attention to Vietnamese families, you can be sure of this, therefore, it is very rare to meet a family in which two daughters or the only child is a girl. Basically, the first child is a son, the youngest is a daughter, or there are two boys in the family. In this regard, there is a constant increase in the birth rate of boys compared to the birth rate of girls.
Vietnamese families live on the basis of five virtues, which include justice, nobility, humanity, knowledge and sincerity. And guided by such principles, the Vietnamese create truly kind and strong families in which respect, warmth, love and kindness reign. Honest sincere relationships, not spoiled by deception and secrecy, the constant desire to learn more in life is their motto.
The Vietnamese are inherent in the confession of the cult of ancestors. The grave of a deceased person is always looked after. If after the death of a person there is no one to look after him and there is no one to honor him, then it is considered that this is a person without offspring.
The Vietnamese have a very strong sense of reverence for their ancestors and their distant roots. Consequently, all Vietnamese try to preserve family relations, never lose touch with their home, the home of their ancestors, and they live not only for themselves, but also for the sake of their descendants and the future, not only their children and for the future of the whole society.
Marriages of Vietnamese with foreigners are very common nowadays. Most often, such couples leave Vietnam, because each of the spouses has slightly different views on society and family life and staying in Vietnam, with its centuries-old traditions may somewhat disturb the stability in such an unequal marriage.
True, in this case, the Vietnamese never forget their relatives, always have a connection with them and, if possible, come to their native lands in order to breathe in the energy of their homeland, where they can take the strength of their ancestors.
There are times when spouses return after a long absence in order to preserve the graves and the memory of their ancestors and to show their children the love and kindness that the entire Vietnamese society carries.