Families of Turkey


Modern Turkey is very different from the country that was just a few years ago. Now they are taking an active part in the political and economic life of the country.

Nowadays, you can meet Turkish women who do good work as lawyers, politicians, deputies, doctors, journalists. They could not even dream of such freedom, because until recently, a woman in Turkey was practically unnoticeable, just an obligatory addition to the head of the family - a man.

Big cities enter the civilized world much faster, and here women gain more and more freedom, they get interesting jobs, they begin to feel like individuals. The situation is more complicated in small Turkish cities and villages, where women are still the same inconspicuous, afraid of everything unknown and forced to hide under black veils.

Until today, entertainment venues in Turkey were available only to men, but now women have the opportunity to visit clubs, restaurants, cafes, dance to European music and feel at ease and at ease.

However, looking at this, one should not forget that the character and nature of a Turkish man has not changed at all, and a woman for them still remains only the weakest link in public life, and therefore she must completely submit to her man.

Before a girl gets married, she is protected by the men of her family. The relationship with the mother is complicated and never goes beyond words about housekeeping and how a girl should behave with her husband.

The parents themselves usually choose a husband for their daughter in Turkey, but even if young people get to know each other themselves, they cannot meet until the parents give their consent. Even so, initial meetings only take place at home, under the watchful eye of older children and parents.

It is strictly forbidden for a Turkish woman to enter into intimate relationships before marriage, she must be clean in front of her husband and her virginity must be checked after the first wedding night. Before the wedding, men necessarily gather for a bachelor party, and the female half gathers to discuss the further family life of a young girl, a bride.

Weddings are different, depending on the financial situation of the family, from the location, that is, a wedding takes place in the city or in the village. However, a large number of people always gather at a wedding in Turkey, mainly relatives from the side of the bride and groom.

A lot of gifts are given and they are based on gold, money and many flowers. By the way, even though in Islam it is allowed to have several wives, religious marriage is not recognized by the state, so according to the law a man can have only one legal spouse.

After the wedding, the girl leaves her home and has to live in her husband’s house, where she has even less rights than in her own home. It is a little easier if young people live separately from their parents.

If they live in the same house with the husband's parents, then the position of the young wife is generally not enviable: the mother-in-law and father-in-law will treat her no more than an ordinary dependent. This humiliating situation can change with the birth of a son in a young family and then a great celebration takes place, because the birth of a son in a Turkish family is tantamount to a holiday.

Then the girl may deserve small indulgences, both from her husband and from his parents. The upbringing of a son is undertaken by the male half of the family, believing that women can only raise a weak and worthless person.

Family relations in Turkey are very complicated and a woman here is shackled by strict Muslim laws and traditions, which say that you need to obey your husband. The main task of a woman in a family is not to interfere with her husband and not interfere with the conversation once again.

Even on the streets, you can see that a woman always follows a man, as if she has nothing to do with him. A man cannot allow a woman to be very close to him, believing that a woman is simply unworthy of this.

Turkish men are very jealous of their property, and a woman is also a man's property. Nowadays, even if husband and wife have the same position in society and both receive excellent wages, the man is still superior to the woman. No one in Turkey has the right to ask a man how his wife is feeling, even if she is a good family friend.

A woman cannot even sit down next to another man in a cafe, restaurant, and the man himself will never approach an unfamiliar or even familiar woman, knowing that she is married. A woman can pay dearly for a primitive dance with a strange man.

Adultery is the worst sin that falls on a woman and her family. A hot Turkish man in a fit of jealousy can even kill his wife and her lover, and such cases were and remain by no means rare.

Exactly the same attitude towards friends, the worst thing is if a wife cheats on her husband with his friend. Death may await both of them, but the husband will not cry over the loss of his wife, but over the loss of his best friend.

In Turkish villages, there is a division of the house into two parts: male and female. A woman cannot appear without permission in the male half. Sometimes women cannot even leave their village, only if with a man from their family who will accompany her everywhere.

No outsider should look at a woman, whether she is married or not. When a woman leaves the house, she must be completely hidden from prying eyes.

Of course, now you can also find women wrapped like a cocoon on the streets of not only small towns, but even large centers. Such traditions have been preserved in truly Muslim families, where traditions are deeply appreciated and the free behavior of women is unacceptable for them.

Despite the fact that women began to dress more freely and modernly, they cannot afford to expose their bodies too much, to expose them and to allow themselves to talk too freely with men.

Young girls from modern families behave quite relaxedly and often become the object of not flattering conversations and are considered affordable women.

Any man can approach them, but due to the fact that unflattering conversations spread too quickly, such girls can remain unmarried. A girl can get to know a young man she likes only through her parents.

A young man is obliged to come to the girl's house and get acquainted with her parents, and if they do not mind young people meeting, then these meetings will take place under the vigilant supervision of the parents.

Only after the young man deserves the trust of his parents, they can already leave the house and walk together on the street.

On the streets of Turkey, it is not customary to show your feelings too clearly, you cannot even kiss your beloved girl. Guardians of the moral order are very careful about the order on the streets and it is better to refrain from too obvious manifestations of their feelings.

Until now, entertainment facilities were available only to men, but now women have the opportunity to visit clubs, restaurants, cafes, dance to European music and feel at ease and at ease.

However, looking at this, one should not forget that the character and nature of a Turkish man has not changed at all, and a woman for them still remains only the weakest link in public life, and therefore she must completely submit to her man.


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