The Filipinos have preserved their ancient customs as well as possible, despite the fact that civilization and progress have reached here too. In the Philippines, not only family ties are important in the family, but spiritual unity among the whole family and among the closest relatives is also of great importance.
Only surrounded by his relatives does the Filipino feel completely safe. The family protects the Filipino from all hardships and troubles, therefore helping relatives is a sacred duty, which no one simply does not think of breaking. However, in the Philippines, this assistance simply knows no bounds.
We can say that each family member enjoys the following position: the older brother is obliged to pay for the education of the younger ones, to feed and clothe them until they can lead an independent lifestyle, in turn, the younger brother, having matured, is obliged to support his nephews and so on from generation to generation.
It is with all these tendencies taken into account that there is a natural desire to increase the number of people who are ready to come to each other's defense in case of unforeseen situations, and here not only blood, but also spiritual kinship, which is established as a result of religious rituals, comes to the rescue.
Establishment of religious kinship is dealt with by the "compadre system" known in the Philippines. The word "compadre" is translated from Spanish as "kum". Compadre is the person who is the godfather of the child at the christening.
The godmother is called Komadre. The desire to increase the number of defenders led to the fact that godparents were chosen several times: on the occasion of illness, marriage, construction of a house.
The relationship between godparents and godchildren is complex and incomprehensible at first glance. Godparents in the Philippines are usually chosen from among those people who have influence in the community so that they can effectively help in the life of the godson.
Godparents are chosen from different social strata of the population, occupying different positions in society, because you never know in advance what may be useful in life.
Having become a godfather or mother, a person becomes a member of the family of his ward, he is obliged to help him with all the means that are available to him, and he himself, in turn, has the right to count on support in all matters, not only from his ward, but from everyone his relatives.
Thus, numerous relatives are added to the existing family, since godparents also have large families, and they are also equated to one common, already large family.
Family ties are of great importance in the Philippines, and a large number of facts confirm this. When a stranger is introduced, they must also indicate his relatives who occupy important posts, so that the person to whom this person is introduced has an idea of the position of the whole family and each of its members in society.
The Filipinos have a very developed mutual assistance, for example, there is a custom when, at the request of any villager, all fellow villagers come to his aid and help him cope with work that cannot be done by one person. It can be a move at home, because the houses are pretty easy and Filipinos have this trait like a love of relocation.
The one who asked his fellow villagers for help, necessarily puts out a treat, and everyone is happy to get down to business. This is a very convenient moment for young people, because at such events, a young man can look after a girl and show her signs of attention. At such events, new relationships often arise, which may lead to the creation of a new family.
In the Philippines, if a young man is courting a girl, then the courtship process is very slow and follows a strictly predetermined form, from which in no case should you deviate. This is a kind of ritual that young people must go through before they can legally marry.
For example, a young man in no case can enter the house of his chosen one, if he does not receive an invitation three times. If he receives an invitation, after he enters the house, he cannot sit down until he is asked to do so three times.
After the parents of the young people agree on the engagement, the girl prepares a dowry for herself, after which the wedding ceremony itself takes place, which also takes place according to the strictly established norms and rules of the Filipinos. Very often after the wedding, the groom works in the house of his future wife.
This is done so that the bride's parents take a closer look at him, appreciate him as a worker, whether he can be a really good husband for their daughter. Some dishonest people sometimes abuse this custom, especially if the groom belongs to a rather poor family, and the bride, on the contrary, leaves a wealthy family.
Very often, after a young man has completed his due date, he is told that he is simply not a suitable match for their daughter and the young man has no choice but to leave the house. In the bride's house, a young man must behave very modestly, he does not have the right to be the first to speak to the bride's relatives until he is asked about something, he cannot refuse any work.
After a young man in the Philippines fulfills his due date, and if the bride's parents are satisfied with everything, it can be assumed that the marriage has finally taken place, and the young either live in the husband's house, or if the parents of both parties can immediately provide the young people with separate housing, they settle in their home and lead an independent lifestyle.
Today, young spouses strive to live more separately from their parents, so that the influence of all numerous relatives, godparents, sisters and brothers is as little as possible.