Families of Laos


Laos belongs to the countries in which Buddhism is the main religion. Buddhism permeates every piece of the human soul and body, it manifests itself not only in the fact that Lao people spend a lot of time in monasteries, but also in the daily life of people.

In Laos, every man is a Buddhist; he necessarily goes to a monastery for some period of time in his life and undergoes obedience.

Laos can also be attributed to one of the few countries where no conflicts are observed, the inhabitants of the country are peaceful and friendly people, and they calmly and patiently relate to the traditions and customs of foreigners.

Lao people have a great sense of humor, which always helps them in life situations. If you approach the communication with the locals with a smile, they will always respond in kind. If there is no smile on the face of the Lao, then this indicates that he is angry.

The family for Lao people is an important part of society. The Lao has a special relationship to the family, however, families are usually not large, it is rare to see a large number of Lao children.

The average Lao family consists mainly of seven members: a father, a mother, children who may already be married, elderly parents, and in addition to them, one or two other relatives may live in the family.

The head of the family is usually a man, but this does not mean that all family members must obey him implicitly, there is no oppression of women in Laos. That is why in the Lao family, especially in cities, you can see the modern European system of relationships.

Parents in Laos try to avoid direct parenting. According to local traditions, other family members teach and educate children. The same applies to the choice of a couple to marry their children.

There is a legend that says that true love appears only in those couples who were in love "in a past life." In Laos, it is believed that all marriages are made in heaven, and everything that happens in life is prepared from above and the fate of all people is predetermined in advance.

Matchmaking and marriage ceremonies in Laos are complex procedures. Usually the groom's parents give gifts or money to the bride's parents before the wedding. However, this does not count as a ransom.

After marriage, young people in Laos begin family life in the house of the bride's parents and live like this for 2 to 3 years from the date of the wedding. During this time, young people need to find an opportunity to acquire their own housing.

A few years later, sometimes even after the birth of children, the young family gets the opportunity to start their own house, and most often they try to find housing for themselves closer to the house of the husband's parents. Children in Laos are loved very much and are never punished. It is believed that a child cannot bring love and kindness to the world if he was punished in childhood.

Despite the fact that parents usually give their children to be raised by other relatives, this does not mean that the child does not receive sufficient care and love. On the contrary, everyone who takes on the responsibility of raising children instills in them the best qualities, respect for the family, for parents and for society.

Regarding the names of the Lao, there are also some peculiarities here. Lao people in the past used only names that were not given by parents, but by astrologers, who chose them with a special meaning.

The use of surnames has recently begun, because the Lao government has issued a law that everyone should have their own first and last name. However, locals still refer to each other only by their first names, and they also have a tradition of changing names in accordance with their occupation or profession.

After the wedding in Laos, the bride can take not only the surname, but also the name of her husband, but she can also leave her initials, but the children will definitely receive the father's surname. Inheritance in Laos is carried out through the male line, as in other countries.

Kinship ties remain with the young family with both parental homes, and children are constantly in the home of both parents, especially if it concerns any holidays or joint events.

As a result of the fact that young people choose their own couples and most marriages are concluded by mutual consent of both parties, divorce is very rare in Laos and most marriages are very strong.

As in other countries where Buddhism is the main religion, in Laos, touching the head of local residents means insulting. You can't even touch a child's head.

Women are not allowed to approach monks, and Buddhist monks are not allowed to touch a woman. As a result, a woman who wishes to make an offering to a monk must first give it to a man, and he will already give the offering to a monk.

You can simply place the offering on the edge of the cloak or scarf that the monk is holding on the other side. However, in many temples, these orders are violated quite widely, therefore, for each specific region, it is necessary to clarify traditions and rules.

Lao people adhere to some rules in clothing, although there is no particular severity in both women and men. If we consider urban residents, then everything is much simpler here, they are much closer to European standards.

Clothing such as shorts for both men and women are only allowed on the beach and at the hotel. When entering any home, Lao people must take off their shoes.

Some temples can only be entered with shoes with a closed heel. Lao houses in some areas are raised above ground level on stilts, so shoes are left on the stairs. When visiting public places and temples, the length of the trousers or skirt should be such that it covers the ankles.

Public display of feelings for both men and women is not permissible in Laos. Even at the sight of tourists or foreigners, who express their emotions too frankly, Lao people can react negatively, because the manifestation of feelings between a man and a woman is permissible for them only in private.


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