Sometimes it is a pity that we do not have a large large family where everyone helps each other, always supports and stands up for each other. However, it is pleasant to gather a large family at the table for the holidays, to see relatives and friends and to know that they will come to your aid at any time.
Gypsies are nomads in their essence, but in the modern world it is very rare to find such nomads, roaming from one place to another. It is not customary for them to live separately and often all members of a huge Roma family live in one place: grandmothers, grandfathers, sisters, brothers, aunts and uncles.
In the past, when gypsies gathered in camps, weddings were negotiated even when the children were just starting to walk. Parents completely decided the fate of their children, and then the wedding was already a simple formality, a general magnificent celebration.
Gypsies had a custom of kidnapping the bride, but it was a very dangerous occupation, because if the groom can take his beloved so far away that they would not be caught, then after a while they will be recognized as husband and wife. If the gypsy thief is caught then it is no longer possible to avoid a cruel reprisal against the daredevil.
At present, this custom has been preserved, but it is carried out only with the consent of relatives and is considered only an additional game, although everything looks quite serious. The bride is put on a high-spirited horse and taken away in an unknown direction.
In some Roma families, parents still decide the fate of their children, and it often happens that the bride and groom see each other only on their own wedding day. The choice of a gypsy bride is determined by the position of her family, wealth, as well as the beauty of the bride herself and her ability to manage the household.
However, gypsies also have a place to love, and gypsies can love hot and long. Modern Roma naturally get to know each other, like all ordinary people, there may be mixed marriages, but the family traditions and traditions of the Roma people have survived to this day.
Matchmaking is mandatory, when a substantial ransom is paid to the bride's parents. However, part of this ransom is then returned to the newlyweds anyway as wedding gifts.
Gypsies are accustomed to giving a lot of gifts, and if we also take into account the insanely huge number of different relatives, then we can say the newlyweds will be almost completely provided with everything necessary for family life. During the matchmaking, only her consent is required from the bride, nothing more is needed from her at that time, everything else is decided by the parents.
The biggest event is a gypsy wedding. All relatives come to the wedding, congratulate the newlyweds and give gifts. The feast is the final part of the wedding, after which the young become officially husband and wife.
For a gypsy girl, the main thing is to marry a virgin. This fact is established after the wedding night, when the bride's mother demonstratively brings out the sheets, stained with blood, for the whole family to see. Until now, no gypsy girl has dishonored her family by having a close relationship with another man.
In a Roma family, both spouses are equal, all responsibilities are always divided equally, and usually Roma families are very strong. Mutual respect develops between spouses, they live in perfect harmony and bring up their many children in love and respect for their parents and the older generation.
If a gypsy wife does not cope with her duties as a mistress and mother, the husband has the right to expel such a woman from the house, since she is not able to keep the house on herself. In turn, the wife can complain about her husband to the head of the family if the husband raises his hand to her or behaves unworthily.
In any case, a wedding for gypsies is a very important moment in life. After the wedding, the newlyweds can live with their parents for some time, but over time they acquire their own housing. However, all the costs associated with paying for the purchase of housing for young people are covered by the parents, as well as the complete home improvement.
Roma are always happy to have a child in their family, even though the family's expenses increase with each new baby. This has never stopped the gypsies, because they treat children with love and very rarely punish their children. From early childhood, children are taught to work and to the harsh truth of life. They cultivate love and respect for the traditions of the family and the traditions of the people.
A man usually deals with financial issues for Roma, by any means trying to earn enough money so that the family does not need anything. However, women also try to be useful and make a living with what they can, namely with their abilities, which are passed down from generation to generation - the secret of fortune-telling.
Gypsies have helped many people find their way in life or fix their lives, and those who have encountered a real gypsy will never forget the help she provided.
In addition to weddings, Gypsy families always gather on holidays together, and all relatives, including even the smallest children, always gather at the table. All family celebrations, anniversaries, birthdays, as well as all traditional holidays are celebrated. They are celebrated in the place where the gypsies live. Despite the fact that feasts are held quite often, the gypsies drink very little, it is very rare to see a drunk gypsy.
In addition to holidays, troubles and accidents happen. At such moments, the whole family comes to the aid of the victim, and everyone makes their contribution in case of illness of a child, one of the relatives and also in case of death.
A funeral for gypsies is also a kind of ritual, when you can observe very interesting traditions. At the funeral at the table, men and women always sit separately, and in the funeral procession one cannot go in pairs, because it was believed that one death could lead to another. On the way back, one must not look back, so that the soul of the deceased cannot take the one who has looked back.