There are three types of marriage in Ethiopia, which in principle can be applied to all other peoples. The first type of marriage is when a man chooses a woman for himself, and they begin to live together without any formalization.
A man brings a woman to his house, gives her money so that she can run a household. In the event that after a while both understand that it makes no sense for them to live together, that they are tired of family life, they can easily disperse without problems.
The next type of marriage is civil marriage. In this case, something similar to a prenuptial agreement is drawn up between a man and a woman, in which all the nuances are stipulated, all the personal property of the bride and groom, as well as the possible consequences of a divorce, are entered into it. Usually, in a divorce, an equal division of property occurs between both spouses.
The third type of marriage, the most important one, is church marriage. This is an official religious ceremony that confirms that marriage is truly a real and unbreakable union of two loving people. In Ethiopia, religion, both Christianity and Islam, became widespread, and traditional African beliefs also remained.
In some rural areas in Ethiopia, it is still practiced that marriage occurs very early, for girls it is 13 or 14 years old, and for men 15-17 years old. In cities, this age has become somewhat higher, and young people generally do not live in a church marriage, but prefer a civil marriage.
Until now, parents are mainly looking for a bride for their sons themselves, while taking into account the wishes of her parents about what should be the condition of the groom and his weight in society. Wedding traditions in Ethiopia are very similar to the traditions of Russian weddings.
The young man must also come to his bride's house in order to ask the parents for permission to marry. After consent is obtained, the engagement takes place, when the groom gives the ring to his bride, presents gifts to his bride's parents, and preparations for the wedding begin. At this time, the bride prepares her own dowry.
In Ethiopia, on the wedding day, the groom with his relatives comes to the bride's house, where treats are prepared for him. In turn, the groom's family should also treat the bride's family in their home.
After the wedding, the young usually settle in the husband's house until the parents on both sides can provide the young people with separate housing. Only then do the young begin their independent life.
Until some time, a woman in an Ethiopian family was equated with property, she had to obey her husband in everything, who was the head of the family, to fulfill all his whims and wishes.
The woman did all the household chores, raised the children and pleased her husband in every possible way. In rural areas, the man is fully responsible for the work in the fields, while the woman is responsible for the harvest.
In Ethiopia, the beginning of family life is the most difficult time for both spouses, because they need to get used to the fact that they are now one. It often happens that it is at the first stage of life together that young wives run away from their husband's house and return to their parents' house, but they are returned by agreement between both families and the spouses themselves, and the girl returns to her husband.
This situation changes after the first child appears in the family, which causes a storm of joyful feelings and is always accompanied by screams. A pregnant woman in Ethiopia receives a special status: she cannot be denied anything, it is necessary to fulfill all her whims and whims.
During pregnancy, a woman should be surrounded only by the most beautiful things and people, she cannot see anything ugly and unpleasant, otherwise the child may be born ugly. Also, a woman must work until the very birth, because otherwise the child can be born fat and lazy, and the birth itself can be very difficult.
In Ethiopia, in the first days after the birth of a child, strangers should not be allowed to the mother and baby in order to avoid the evil eye. On the seventh day, a woman can go out with her child on the street for a while, but at the same time, her husband must go ahead of her with a stick in his hands in order to drive away evil spirits from them.
After that, the mother and child can be visited by numerous relatives and friends with gifts and congratulations, and the mother can already begin to fulfill her household duties. It is after the birth of a child that a woman realizes that her life is tightly connected with the life of her husband and they are now one family.
Children in Ethiopia are not given a name until christenings, which usually take place for boys on the fortieth day after birth, and for girls on the eightieth. Until the very day of christening, the mother does not leave her child alone for a minute. The mother does not lift the baby from her breast until 2 years old, and sometimes even longer.
In Ethiopia, parents try to cultivate such character traits as respect for their parents and the older generation, honesty and courage in their children. They are trying to convince them that the world that surrounds them is inherently hostile, and no one is able to protect children except their parents.
It is also believed that hunger fosters willpower in a person, so it is always necessary to get up from the table half-starved, to accustom your stomach to go without food and drink for a long time.
The older the sons in Ethiopia become, the more the mother's influence extends to them, and after the sons create their families, here mothers can completely take their families under their authority.
Some women receive the status of "mother of all men" and are then invited to various events, which are usually not allowed for other women.
Many women in Ethiopia now live very different lives. Women can now receive education, master various professions and, after graduation, get a job and take an active part in public life.