Each of us wants to start a family so that it is strong and friendly, and the children honor and respect their parents. However, how to create such an almost ideal family, if today all the main problems rest on the financial condition of both spouses.
The secret to a happy and healthy marriage is patience and passion for both spouses. A man in Finland is the head of the family and the main breadwinner, as he needs to support his family and children.
However, at present, as in many other countries, Finland is seeing a decrease in the number of children in a family, and families are no longer so large. Family traditions have not been preserved in all families, but it is they that serve to strengthen family relations and the whole family as a whole.
In Finland, common-law marriages are common, in which spouses can live for many years and only then can they be legally married. The average age for men who want to get married is somewhere around 30, women start thinking about family life a couple of years earlier.
At this age, the understanding is already coming that it is necessary to create that cell of society in which it will be warm and comfortable, where they can return after a hard day's work and rest.
In Finland, families are few, almost every family has one child, less than 30 percent of families have two or three children. Finland became the first country where equality between women and men was recognized, and it was here that the first woman president appeared.
Sometimes men even feel a little stiff and insecure, because equality in Finland is becoming more and more important. However, if in public life this is not so noticeable, then in everyday life it manifests itself very strongly when the spouses are left alone without witnesses.
A woman who has more weight in society and has a higher salary than her husband has every right to show her importance in the family. Only children become witnesses of such expressions of emotions and what they see has a very strong effect on their character and upbringing.
For a woman in Finland today, in the first place is not home and family, raising children, but work and career. She has no time to do housework. It turns out that soon men themselves will have to take on the laundry, cleaning and raising children.
Against this background, a man cannot consider himself the head of the family and breadwinners in the truest sense of the word. A woman is too busy with her work, she has no desire to have several children, and hence the low birth rate and ridicule by the woman of men.
Late marriages in Finland occur for the reason that both a man and a woman first of all strive to obtain a high social status and only then, when they already have some kind of financial platform, they begin to think about starting a family and calm down a little in the warmth home. A family based only on material gain cannot be happy; a woman's striving for independence cannot make a family complete.
However, if we leave aside the material side, then a normal Finnish family, which has everything for a normal family life, looks quite attractive. Finnish families always spend their free time together, go out of town on weekends, or spend time at home watching good films.
The most important thing in a family is to have common interests, feelings of unity between spouses and children, mutual respect and love. The main thing in a family is children and their upbringing needs a lot of energy, patience and, of course, love. It is impossible to educate a kind and intelligent person without love.
All parents want their child to receive an excellent education, create a family, have a high position in society and be a respected person. Finnish parents understand this very well and, knowing that financial resources are needed for the education and upbringing of children, do not strive to have large offspring.
In Finland, there is a very big difference between farming families and urban families, in which the desire for material wealth predominates. In farm families, children, together with their parents, are involved in work from childhood, while the physical strength and health of children is developed much stronger than children in urban families, and they also receive less psychological trauma.
Farmer families are much larger than urban ones. They will never give up the birth of another child here, because children bring more joy to everyday life. Although Finland has excellent conditions for combining work and family life, women and even men are given parental leave, there are also other programs for young parents.
Urban families are no longer so caring about family ties and family feelings when families get together and spend fun weekends and holidays. As a result, families are stronger on farms and in villages, where families spend all their time together at home and at work and from this become much closer to each other.
As in any other country, in Finland women bear the greatest responsibility for raising children, and it is women who take parental leave. In Finland, fathers also devote a lot of time to raising children, and more often you can find fathers walking with their children, playing and doing sports with them.
During this time, women are absorbed in their work. However, you should not think that women in Finland do not want to take care of the family at all.
This is not so, because women still try, whenever possible, to always be close to their family, and spend all their free time with her. It happens that the family goes in for sports, hikes and walks on weekends, and these aspects are the main aspects that unite a healthy Finnish family.