Families of Afghanistan


Probably, there is no longer such a country in which a large number of nationalities and nationalities live. This is the result of many events throughout the history of Afghanistan. Throughout the entire time, various nationalities arrived and remained in Afghanistan, they created their families and gradually formed separate groups.

Due to such a variety of nationalities, it is difficult to determine any common cultural values ​​and traditions, because each community or tribal group has its own history, traditions and customs, their own values ​​that they keep within their groups.

All groups have in common only adherence to Islam, which is the main religion of Afghanistan, and its traditions are observed by all tribal groups. The laws of Islam are not as strict here as in some Arab countries, where deviations from these laws are simply unacceptable.

Usually families in Afghanistan are very large and are always led by the oldest man of the family. Marriages are concluded relatively early and only necessarily between members of the same tribal group.

Before getting married in Afghanistan, an agreement is required between the families of both newlyweds or their mutual consent to marriage, that is, young people do not have the right to choose a couple from another family or their parents choose a husband or wife for their children.

The tribes are very tough on the observance of all the principles of behavior with the elders, there is tough clannishness. Despite the peculiar composition of the entire population of Afghanistan, there are practically no conflicts between tribal groups. All conflicts are usually resolved at the council of the oldest tribes, which allows you to maintain an overall calm atmosphere.

Rural family communities form the backbone of Afghanistan's entire society, and most often a specific territory is occupied by one tribal group. Traditional clothing for both men and women is long skirts, baggy pants and a headdress that is a must. Turbans in men usually indicate his belonging to the tribal group.

The entire family in Afghanistan lives in a rather large house, which is divided into male and female halves, a courtyard where women cook and take care of the children. A woman can enter the male half only with the permission of the owner of the house or an older man.

Guests are accepted only on the male side of the house. Married sons mostly live in their parents' house, but sometimes they are given a separate room in a separate part of the house.

There are, of course, rather poor villages, here houses are also divided into two parts: male and female, and guests are already received on the street under a canopy. If guests stay overnight, they are accommodated in the male half with the children. The families of poor Afghans cannot afford more.

The attitude towards women is quite strict and a number of restrictions are imposed on their behavior. Often a man in a family decides when a woman can leave the house, go out to guests, or what she should do at a particular moment.

There was a time when the Taliban government imposed more bans on women's rights: they were not allowed to study and work. After the Taliban were overthrown, the women were given their rights back. Although not all tribes followed all the rules so strictly, and women had enough rights in their families.

Women usually wear "chedan", a kind of burqa that is not an obligatory wardrobe item. Basically, it protects from dust and is an element of the wardrobe that serves to highlight the attitude of a woman to a particular tribe. Usually "chedan" has decorations or drawings of local needlewomen, which just indicate belonging to a certain tribe.

When talking with men, women should lower their eyes, and in general, communication with other people's men is almost impossible, because women usually leave the house only accompanied by one of the men of their tribe. In this case, it is strictly forbidden to communicate with a woman and even more so to touch her, this will be considered a serious insult.

A more loyal attitude here can be towards tourists, who can easily enter the female half of the house and communicate with all women, as well as on the street they are not prohibited from communicating with women from any tribal group.

Afghans are very hospitable and have a great attitude towards those who do not violate their traditions, besides, they can easily react to other people's mistakes. If an Afghan invites to his home, then this speaks of great respect for the guest and the refusal may be offensive to him.

You should not offer your help, because no matter what the financial situation in the family, Afghans will always set the table and offer guests all the best. They are very fond of gifts, the only thing that should not be offered them alcohol as a souvenir or a gift, it is better to offer tobacco, sweets.

Getting into the house of Afghans, it is better to refuse to praise any interior items, because according to the rules, everything that the guest liked should be presented to him by the owner, no matter how dear the owner is. The most expensive thing and main wealth for every Afghan is the weapon that every family has and is passed down from generation to generation.

An interesting feature is also the meal in the Afghan family. Men and women eat separately. They eat only on the floor and these rules are observed even in city restaurants. Usually eaten by hand, although spoons are also present on the table, or they can be brought at will. Before and after meals, tea is always served, usually green.

It is not customary to talk at the table, and even when the meal is over, the conversation can begin only with a specific question or appeal. Moreover, the conversation can begin only with the permission of the main man of the clan, and this is right: talking with a mouthful at the table is simply indecent.


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