Fathers who have daughters often hear that they are unlucky. Not only do men not have to wait for help in the household from these children, so sooner or later they will have to face the problems of transitional age.
In fact, daughters are wealth for a real man! Their upbringing brings joy, they are not a burden at all. And our tips will help you do this.
The need for love. Men are tough people. It is all the more important to learn how to show your love to your daughter. She needs this much more than gifts or money. They cannot compensate for the lack of communication. Only a loving father can give a true sense of protection and confidence. The daughter will grow up and sometimes make mistakes, the parents will be upset, faced with harshness and rudeness. Nevertheless, you should not give even the slightest reason to doubt your father's love. The daughter must understand that he loves her the way she is and she will always be understood and forgiven in the parental home. And don't be afraid to talk about it often. Why not look into her eyes and say, "I love you."
Choosing a future partner. It depends on the father what kind of partner his daughter will choose for herself in life. And the point here is not in the final statement of the groom, but in the attitude towards her during the period of upbringing. If the father is a good mentor and friend, then his daughter will subconsciously look for a man like him. Otherwise, she will have difficulty understanding what her chosen one should be. This will lead to problems with the choice of a partner and marriage. In happy families, little girls often say they will grow up and marry dad. This is a good sign, which means that the father is behaving correctly.
Listen to the same music as your daughter. When a girl enters adolescence, she develops a love for modern music. But it is not always to the taste of parents. We must still try to understand what exactly the child finds in her. Why not listen to discs with her, go to a concert of a fashionable group? This will give you something to discuss. When you are driving with your daughter in the car, do not switch the music of her choice. After all, sooner or later the time will come when she will already move independently, and the resentment may remain.
Attitude towards the mother. This is the most important tip. Girls are sensitive to how men treat their mother. It is worth being a loving and gentle spouse, and this will greatly affect the relationship with your daughter. And let the children see that their father loves their mother and values family and marriage. Taking part in the life of your daughter, you should not forget about your personal. Let there be time for a visit to the theater with his wife, for a romantic evening in a restaurant. Let there be a little trip without children. If the children see that the wife is no less important to the man than they are, it will benefit both the marriage and the attitude of the children towards him.
Do not move away during adolescence. From 11 to 15 years old, the girl has a difficult age. She will change outwardly and may even become less beautiful for a while. She will have new character traits, she will become rude and naughty. But in this difficult period, one cannot move away from his daughter, it is necessary to maintain an emotional connection with her. You need to know what problems she lives, what she does, with whom she is friends and meets. And in general, you should be ready to help her on any issue. Don't laugh at your daughter if she took your razor to shave her legs. A child should be treated with love and understanding, even if he is no longer 5, but 15 years old.
Sports activities together. In order for a strong and self-confident woman to grow from a timid girl, she will need to love sports. And who, if not her father, will help her in this? Exercise with her, take her for morning runs or bike rides. Let your daughter learn to do push-ups, and how interesting outdoor sports are! Who said girls should be weak and defenseless? Thanks to sports, both physical and mental strength will be formed, solid character. It should be understood that in the modern world, femininity manifests itself not only in a beautiful outfit, but also in the strength of the body and spirit.
Small holidays. In the life of any woman, childhood should remain happy at times. And those holidays and bright events that took place in these glorious years form memories. Let your daughter's birthdays turn out not to be family gatherings, but a small trip for a couple of days. Let your daughter make a list of those places or even countries where she would like to visit. It remains to discuss it together and choose the best option. And you should entrust your daughter with part of planning such a trip, making a list of things necessary for it. And of course, do not forget about the camera to capture these wonderful moments. At the end of each week, it is worth watching interesting films together and then sharing your impressions. Or why not host a gala breakfast on Sunday? What's wrong with the tradition of drinking tea together in some cozy cafe? And in general, on weekends, it is best to walk around the most interesting places of the city. You can't be lazy to come up with such adventures and you must definitely take pictures of them. Let your daughter's emotional memory be filled with time spent with her father.
Giving is more important than taking. When children suddenly realize that their whole life revolves not only around themselves, they are very surprised. After all, now it turns out that the last piece of food must be left to someone else. The father's task is to explain to his daughter that life will be better from the fact that each of us will help someone else. Sometimes it's better to be the last in line than to be the first, elbowing others. And when you're wrong, you have to honestly admit it.
Be there for the most important moments. It's no secret that most men are busy building their own careers. They simply do not have free time to communicate with children. Nevertheless, the most important moments in a daughter's life cannot be missed. It can be a concert at a music school, a sports competition, or an exhibition of her work in a creative workshop. And praise, praise your daughter, regardless of the results - after all, efforts were made. And even if there are other plans on this day - football or get-togethers with friends, it is worth prioritizing. Plans can often be moved, but the daughter's childhood is no longer. It goes away irrevocably.
Unplug your mobile phone at home. The main mistake of fathers is that they continue to be absent from home, even physically being there. And the fault is the mobile phone. Men are busy with their smartphones or tablets, texting, chatting on social networks and leaving tweets. And at this time, the little daughter is waiting for attention to be paid to her. When crossing the threshold of the house, it is best to turn off the phone immediately. We need to pay a little attention to our daughter, who has been waiting for her father all day. Why not read a book to her instead of Facebook, or just sit and embrace? And she will fool around with her father with pleasure. Very soon the girl will have other interests, does she want to be at home, where no one cares about her?
Be able to braid your braids. It is believed that braiding hair is a purely female occupation. These are mothers combing their daughters' hair and tying them with funny tails. But just in case, it would be nice for my father to learn this. What if he and his daughter go somewhere on vacation? Experienced psychologists advise fathers to learn not only to do their daughter's hairstyles, but also to paint her nails. This will prove to the child that the father can be not only strong, but also gentle.
Walking with my daughter somewhere together. At least several times a year, it is worth asking your daughter out on a date without her mother or other family members. It can be a theater, cinema or restaurant. During such meetings, the daughter will understand how another man should treat her. The father will open the car door, help you take off or put on your coat. The daughter will hear compliments and jokes, will have the opportunity to choose a dish on her own, for which an attentive gentleman will pay. Let her at least sometimes feel like a “beauty in a million”. It certainly won't ruin Father. In addition, you can come up with your own options for where and how best to spend time with your daughter. This could be a trip to the park or a trip to a bookstore. It is important to plan everything in advance so that it looks like a real "adult" date.
Explain that beauty is not the main thing. It is a banal truth - any girl dreams of being beautiful. But who, if not the father, should explain to his daughter that inner beauty is much more important? It is thanks to character, kindness and self-esteem that the right life path will be formed. The modern world imposes sensual ideals of glamor, which are not easy to abandon. It is the father who will have to tell his daughter that she must win respect and love not by exposing her body, but by moral qualities.
Don't miss your childhood. At a certain moment, you realize that life does not go, but rushes with great speed! And at the moment there is a person on the planet who needs you more than anything in the world, a girl who calls you father. We must enjoy this role and not miss the childhood of our child. It will end so quickly that you won't have time to blink an eye.
Don't be afraid to ask your daughter for forgiveness. Many parents do everything they can for their daughters. But adults are not perfect either. The father may wrongly offend his daughter or not keep his promise. Do not be afraid to ask your daughter for forgiveness if you are wrong. This will not affect the authority. If you do not know how to do this, then you urgently need to learn. And the words must come from the very heart. This is the only way to become closer to your daughter, and she will certainly forgive the guilty, but such a sincere father.